Yes, I’m getting married… in less than a month (19 days to be exact, but who’s counting). And yes, I am only 20 years old, we’ll get to that. It has been such a whirlwind, a good whirlwind though. Joe and I got engaged on October 20, 2017 and we will be getting married on December 23, 2017. By the time we picked the date for the wedding I had less than 2 months to plan it. So, planning has basically been my life for the past month and will continue to be my life for the next 19 days.
Wedding Planning in 2 Months
I never realized how much actually goes into planning a wedding, there are SO MANY tedious and small details! And planning a wedding while your significant other is in the military 3,000 miles away is like 10x harder. It is incredibly hard to sit down and find time to talk when your significant other is in class for 8 hours, 3 hours behind you, and super busy with homework/studying/inspections. Not to mention that I am also working on a college degree online and do schoolwork for at least 5 hours every day. Despite all of that, I have been enjoying wedding planning and haven’t really been stressed about it at all. I got the major wedding details (venue, photographer, dress, bridesmaids dresses, and DJ) settled within 2 weeks and everything else has just fallen into place. Wedding planning has been amazing and so much fun. I have God to thank for how smoothly it has been going!
But I haven’t done it all on my own. I have been so blessed to have an amazing support system behind me that has helped with planning. I could never thank the people that have stepped in to help enough. It is truly a gift from God to have such an incredible fiancé, family, friends, and church community! So MANY people have stepped in to offer their help with anything.
Getting Married at “Such a Young Age”
Yeah, I have gotten the run around from a few people about Joe and I being “too young”. I have been told that we should get our lives settled, career-wise, before we get married. I have been told that marriages don’t work out in the military because he’ll be too busy or never home. I have been told that we may be too young to know exactly what we want in life yet. I have been told that we don’t even know who we are yet. And I know these people didn’t mean any harm by it… hopefully. But here’s the thing, Joe and I understand that marriage is a serious thing. We know that we can’t just throw in the towel when things get tough. We know that we are truly going have to work for our marriage because it won’t always be easy. We know that love is a choice and we will continue to choose love every single day. Most importantly, we will put God at the center of our marriage.
As for our lives not being settled yet… we know that. I don’t think our lives will ever be “settled” while he is in the military. And that’s okay! We want to experience all that life has to offer us, TOGETHER. We want to travel, we want to explore the places that the Navy sends us to, we want to share in each other’s successes (and the unfortunate but, occassional failure), we just want to be together. We don’t want to be separated by 3,000 miles. We would rather go through the ups and downs of life with each other by our side. We want to take it all in, together. So, our lives may not be settled or set in stone but, is it truly that way for anyone? I’m not so sure that anyone has their life totally figured out at any age.
Married at 20
I am so excited for this new journey Joe and I are about to embark on and I can’t wait to see what God has in store for our lives together as a married couple. I am so ready to be married to my best friend. I love the fact that we are getting married at 20 because we will get to spend more anniversaries together. We will get to experience so much together! This is just such an exciting time in our lives right now. I have never been so sure about anything in my life until I met this man. I get to marry my best friend and it is such a blessing. Thank you God! Blessings on blessings! Okay now I am rambling so I will end it here with a picture from the night we got engaged!